Thursday, October 16, 2008

The Perfect Family

I have a friend (well actually more of an acquaintance if I want to be specific) who also gave birth to her fourth child in August. Her son was born the day before Eden. Her family goes girl, boy, girl, boy. Mine is boy, girl, boy, girl. The difference is all of her children are living.

Over the past two months, I have listened to various people talk about how she has "the perfect family." It makes me sad to realize how few people are open enough to see that I have the perfect family too.


This past weekend we took Eden to the cemetery for the first time to meet her brother and last night we lit candles for Owen and for all of your babies too. As I watched those candles burn, I felt lucky for the first time in a long time.

6 comments:

k@lakly said...

Thinking of you, Owen and your perfect family, today and always.
xxoo

CLC said...

Glad to hear you are doing well. Thinking of you and all your children!

Clarissa said...

Oh goodness, I hate that comment about the "perfect" family. Owen was perfect, as all of your other children are too. Whether a single child or an all boy/girl family, each child of ours has a piece of our heart - and what can be more perfect then that?

c. said...

I guess the innocents think the dead part makes a difference. It doesn't. I'm sorry they don't recognize that. XO.

Alice said...

Thanks so much for your blog. I think it is interesting - ideas people have about a 'perfect' family or a a 'proper family.' As there are only three of us I don't think that I have a proper family. But I know that that is really negative and unhelpful. A friend of mine is recently divorced and she now feels that she doesn't have a 'proper family.' I personally don't think family is really what mattters. I think that it is just a question of a group of people who care - whether they are related or not. With love, Alice

niobe said...

There are so many things that most people can't see.